10 Tips for Better Behavior

Son playing airplane with his father in the park.

Sometimes, when tasks and schedules get overwhelming, it’s helpful to make a to-do list to make things feel more manageable and focused.

If your children’s behavior problems have you feeling overwhelmed and not knowing what to do first – no worries, we’ve got you covered!

Start with these 10 tips for better behavior.

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Befriending the Mom of a Child With Special Needs: 7 Tips For Success

Moms with a child with special needs

“Look mom! That boy’s in a wheelchair!”

“Why is she wearing that brace on her leg?”

“Why is that boy talking like a baby?” or “Why isn’t he talking at all?”

“Why is she making those sounds?”

“Look! That little girl is missing an arm.”

From the mouths of babes flow the most uninhibited and awkward questions, am I right?

When these innocently curious questions flow at a decibel level that can be heard by every shopper in the next 3 aisles, it’s enough to make any parent awkwardly shuffle to the exit at break-neck speed—while shushing and whispering to their inquisitive child.

Even though our kids’ comments are completely innocent, we’re embarrassed because we don’t want to hurt feelings or cause any more stress for the mom or dad who’s already dealing with more than their share of challenges.

And, we also struggle with our OWN responses when interacting with parents of kids with special needs. We don’t know what to say. Should we say anything at all? Should we offer to help? Our intentions are always good, but we struggle with the “right” thing to do—and so sometimes we do nothing at all. All too often we opt to avoid engagement instead of leaning into it.

The problem is, when we rush our kids away from children with differences or we fail to step up to befriend a mom of a kid with special needs, we not only miss the joy that might come from that new friendship, but we increase the chasm of understanding between us.
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7 Positive Parenting Resources You’ll Want to Check Out

Happy woman with child
Happy woman with child
Happy woman with child

People always say it takes a village to raise a kid, but I’m convinced it takes a village to raise parents, too.

Once those sweet cherubs arrive, it’s really the PARENTS who need the help—the encouragement, the guidance, and the wisdom to become the parents they’ve always wanted to be.

While I’ve dedicated my life to teaching Positive Parenting strategies to thousands of families, I’m also the first to seek out experts on topics outside my wheelhouse. I love sharing resources I know will bring measurable, easy-to-implement relief and long-term support to families in our Positive Parenting Solutions community.

Lucky for all of us, there are a plethora of people and companies who’ve dedicated their time to creating tools, programs, and resources that seamlessly support parents who are trying to implement Positive Parenting strategies in their home.

Here are a few of my favorite resources that complement our Positive Parenting Solutions course. I’ve divided the list into “Parent-Focused Resources” (you know the drill…put YOUR oxygen mask on first!) and “Kid-Focused Resources.”

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5 Steps To Put the Brakes on Back Talk

Boy arguing

“I don’t want to!”

“You can’t make me!”

“You’re the meanest mommy!”

“I’m not doing that!”

Sound familiar? You’re not alone. Backtalk is the number one parenting complaint I hear from the thousands of parents I’ve worked with. But does knowing how common backtalk is make it any less frustrating? Of course not!

Backtalk might be annoying and, at times, infuriating, but it’s a common side-effect of growing up and gaining independence.

At all ages, kids need a strong sense of personal power on an emotional level. When they can’t get it because we’re ordering them around or doing everything for them, they lash out with words.

It’s a typical “fight or flight” response—since they can’t exactly move into their own apartment (flight), they’ll fight back by testing limits and trying to get a reaction.

There are many reasons WHY kids talk back, so it’s important to get to the root of the issue to determine which strategy will work best.  

The best way to stop backtalk in its tracks is to give our kids the positive personal power they need. By fostering independence within our limits, we can help them grow up, as well as limit the backtalk, arguing, and whining that no one enjoys.

Here are 5 steps to put the brakes on backtalk:

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Hollywood College Admissions Scandal and the Rise of Entitlement

Students secretly passing a note to each other
Students secretly passing a note to each other

Students secretly passing a note to each other
This week’s shocking news of federal charges raining down on celebrity parents and others in a massive college admissions scandal left many people (and certainly parents) shocked and incredulous.

While there is a legitimate reason for shock and awe – this extreme “parenting” as some might call it, puts a spotlight on behavior that has its roots in small, blurred parenting lines.

As parents, we want the best for our kids. But when wanting what’s best for our kids pushes us to take drastic and unethical actions, it makes me wonder—are we REALLY doing what’s best for our kids?

Think about it. Little things like asking for special favors and consideration—from a teacher, coach, director, or anyone in authority when your child has clearly not put in the time, effort, or inclination—is a rung on that blurred parenting ladder.
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4 Positive Parenting Strategies That Work Better Than Yelling

Happy girl with two thumbs up
I get it. You don’t want to yell at your kids.
I’ve been a parenting educator for 15+ years and have never met a parent who felt like yelling was a good strategy. The only reason parents yell is because they are pushed to the brink and don’t have more effective tools to use.

We know from recent studies that yelling can have the same detrimental effects on a child as spanking—including increased anxiety, depression, stress, and other emotional disorders. And while yelling can be useful in some situations, if it is our default discipline strategy, we will fail to experience the long-term behavioral changes we hope to see in our children.

Why isn’t Yelling a Good Long-Term Strategy?

Parenting is a marathon—or more like 18 marathons strung together. When considering different discipline strategies, it’s vital we remember the end-game.

Sure, we’d like our son to walk through the candy aisle without throwing a tantrum. And we’d like our daughter to not wage war at the dinner table over the highly-controversial green vegetable.

The problem is, when we focus on those short-term issues, we have potential to create negative long-term effects. Read More