parenting

When Positive Parenting Doesn’t Work: 5 Missteps to Avoid

Children yelling and mother in despair
Children yelling and mother in despair

Children yelling and mother in despair
You’ve tried it—that whole
“Positive Parenting” thing.

You tried not to yell or hand out rewards, but alas, the kids are still running amok all over your house.

Again, you’re left defeated—feeling like threats and punishments are the only way to get your kids to know you’re actually serious and behave in the moment.

I totally get it. I remember (like it was yesterday) feeling at the end of my rope.  Thinking to myself, “Am I even cut out to be a mother?”  “Why is this so difficult for me?” “Why does it feel like my kids are always winning?”

Let’s be honest, friends, there is no more difficult task than raising those tiny humans and doing it WELL!

But what I’ve learned from my own journey of being a daily yeller to a parenting instructor who teaches parents how NOT to yell is that systemic change takes time.
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How to Get Kids to (REALLY) Listen: 7 Steps for Success

Kid with megaphone pointed at another kid
Kid with megaphone pointed at another kid

Kid with megaphone pointed at another kid
You’ve asked your child to do something. Very calmly. Very rationally. And very deliberately.

Instead of action, you get the kid equivalent of crickets. Radio silence.

Maybe they didn’t hear me?” you think. So, you ask again nicely.  Firmly, but nicely.

Nothing.

You feel yourself rapidly falling into the familiar cycle of “Repeat. Remind. Repeat. Remind.”

And then it happens—the fuse blows. In a moment of utter defeat, you’re left screaming the same demands you had requested calmly just minutes ago. The energy escalates and everyone is left frustrated and discouraged.

I get it. So do most parents. I’ve been a parenting educator for 15+ years and can say unequivocally that children “not listening” is the most common frustration I hear from moms and dads.  
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Why Social Media Is A Lot Like Driving: 5 Tips to Keep Kids Safe on Smartphones

Teens Busy on Cell Phones
Teens Busy on Cell Phones

Teens Busy on Cell Phones
If you’re the parent of a tween or teen, you know how important smartphones have become to this generation. Like the newfound freedom of getting a driver’s license, getting a smartphone means fresh independence and more ways to connect with friends (and yes, possibly strangers).

Like driving, there are many benefits to having a smartphone, however, the consequences for misuse can be high. So, how can we coach our kids to use this powerful device safely and positively? Let’s take a cue from Driver’s Ed.

When it’s time for our kids to drive, they aren’t simply handed keys to a car after a quick lecture about the importance of seat belts and speed limits. Instead, we buckle up alongside them and start down the road together. And we don’t start on a freeway during rush-hour. We begin in the driveway, and then on back roads, and the progression continues as our kids show readiness.

Parents must do the same with social media, which is now one of the biggest drivers of a student’s social development.

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Tooth Fairy Costs and Kid Expectations

Little girl holding a dollar bill
Little girl holding a dollar bill

Little girl holding a dollar bill
Just when you think you’ve seen it all, brace yourself – there’s more!

After the release this week of Original Tooth Fairy Poll by Delta Dental, I found myself being asked for comments on what this means for kids and parents – and also marveling at the fact that there actually is a “Lost Tooth Index” complete with an S&P 500 logo and well-calculated stats to go with it!

In this annual survey of more than 1,000 parents with kids under twelve, Delta Dental found that the going rate for a lost tooth is around $3.70 on average, down from $4.13 last year.

To begin with, the whole idea of payout “averages” has to make parents laugh.  Can you imagine searching through your wallet and junk drawer to “make change” to slip under a child’s pillow?
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Why Do Kids Whine? 3 Steps to Make it Stop

Boy sticking out tongue
Boy sticking out tongue

Boy sticking out tongue
You said “no” to brownies for breakfast, a new puppy and your 15-year-old’s request to spend the weekend at a beach house with friends.

And each time, just like clockwork, the whining begins.

From toddlers to teens, all children know how to argue with your decision in their best nails-on-a-chalkboard voice.

You’ve tried everything from time-outs to earplugs, but the whining won’t end. Don’t worry—you’re not alone. Parents worldwide fall victim to their child’s whining daily, but this doesn’t mean you can’t stop it.

By learning why your kids whine, you can discover how to put an end to it for good.

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5 Positive Parenting Myths Explained and DEBUNKED

Little girl with a crown and magnifying glass
Little girl with a crown and magnifying glass

Little girl with a crown and magnifying glass

“Positive Parenting? Isn’t that the one where every kid gets a trophy and parents give into the child’s every request?”

“Oh, Positive Parenting? I tried that once. It doesn’t work for my kid. He only listens when I yell.”

“My parents didn’t use Positive Parenting and I turned out fine.”

“Positive Parenting is making our kids weak and lazy because parents don’t discipline kids anymore.”

Oh, my friend. I’ve heard it all. And I get it, because I, too, was once a skeptic.

When you’re being hit from all sides with parenting advice—both online and in person—it’s difficult to sift through it all and figure out what will really work for your family.

Once I discovered what Positive Parenting REALLY is, and began seeing the transformation in my family first-hand, all my skepticism melted away.

To help you decide if positive parenting is a good fit for your family, let’s debunk the 5 Positive Parenting myths that I hear all the time.

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