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To Lose or Not to Lose? Board Game Strategies for Playing with Kids.

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Playing board games is a great way to have fun and bond as family. But any game begs the question: do you let your kids win so they feel good about themselves and stay interested, or do you play fair—and win sometimes—at the risk of discouraging them?

Before you stack the deck for the next round of Candyland, read the pointers below, offered by Ellen Notbohm and Veronica Zysk.
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Forget It! How to be done with everyday forgetfulness.

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verdue library books. Smelly gym clothes. Permission slips rushed to school as the field-trip bus is about to pull away. When will kids learn to remember the things they need before the guilty, “Um, I forgot…” phone call?

As you may have heard before, “A child who always forgets has a parent who always remembers.” Which is to say, every time you rescue your kids with constant reminders or by bailing them out when they forget, you actually do them a disservice, as they never feel the sting of their forgetfulness and learn to take responsibility.

I’m not talking about the occasional slips of mind. You know you have a real problem when you’re dropping off a lunchbox or musical instrument on a weekly basis for one of your kids. Here’s how to solve it:
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5 Steps to Better Manners

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What’s the magic word?

What do you say?

Close your mouth!

Sometimes you feel like a parrot in your attempts to get your kids to use their manners. You’ve worked on “please” and “thank you” since they were two—so why do they seem to need a refresher course on a daily basis?

In parenting education circles, we often say, “A child who always forgets has a parent who always remembers,” which means that constant reminders aren’t likely to change your kids’ behavior long-term. Fortunately, it’s entirely within your reach to raise a child who says “excuse me” even when you’re not around.

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Parents on Strike: Making a point to raise responsible, self-reliant kids

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Imagine six days of freedom from being “Mom the Maid”: no cleaning up after kids, doing their dishes, or constantly putting away their toys and school bags.

Jessica Stilwell, mother of three, made headlines a while back when she got just that – by going on strike.

And although in less than a week, her kitchen sink could easily be mistaken for a science experiment and her entire house was now artfully decorated in dirty clothes, she had also taught her kids a very valuable life lesson—and offered hope to parents everywhere who are fed up with their kids not lifting a finger.
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What to do about Loooong Turns?

Girl Playing with Toys


Once again, we’re delighted to welcome author Heather Shumaker to the Positive Parenting Solutions blog for Part 2 of her 2-part series on the topic of sharing.  Enjoy!

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f you’re tired of playing referee when your kids squabble over who gets a toy, look into a new sharing method based on turn taking

(Please see Part 1 called: It’s OK Not to Share).

It doesn’t take long for kids to learn.

“My two- and four-year-olds ‘get’ taking turns,” said one mom.

“I tried turn taking with Cameron the other day, and he did hand the toy over joyfully, just like you said!” reported another parent.
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It’s OK Not to Share

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We’re thrilled to welcome author Heather Shumaker to the Positive Parenting Solutions blog.  We love her wisdom on the topic of sharing and wanted to “share” it with you!  Enjoy Part 1 of this 2-part series…

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 (Heather) recently wrote a post you may have seen celebrating our family’s “no homework” stance. I’m a mother and author, and I know what you might be thinking: Eee gads – now she’s against sharing, too??

Well, not exactly. I’m all for cultivating generosity in our kids. It’s our job to help our children deepen their care and awareness of others. But the way we generally approach sharing backfires.

Here’s a typical scene involving preschoolers: One child is busily engaged with a toy when a new child comes up and wants it. A nearby adult says: “Be nice and share your toys,” or “Give Ella the pony. You’ve had it a long time.”

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