Whether we’re talking about closing the front door, making a replica of the Alamo out of salt dough or cleaning poor Goldie’s dirty tank, we all know it shouldn’t take threats, bribes and every-three-minute “reminders” to get our kids to complete their responsibilities. So why does it? One thing is for sure: “Because I said so” doesn’t apply to this generation of savvy-yet-stubborn kids. And millions of parents are at their wit’s end trying to figure out how to get the cooperation they’re looking for.
The truth is, the authoritarian “Because I said so” method of parenting is on its way out. Collaboration and respect are replacing the top-down dominance of the previous generation. Just like husbands can no longer demand dinner on the table when they walk in the door from work and bosses can’t berate their employees for walking in five minutes late, parents shouldn’t depend on pure authority to get kids to tow the line. Read More →
Guest Post by Katie Hurley, LCSW
Six months ago, I took my eight-year-old daughter on a road trip to San Francisco. It was her first trip to the area and she researched the city to find the best spots to visit. The list was long and we didn’t stand a chance of completing it in two days, but she was determined to give it a try.
She was mesmerized by the Golden Gate Bridge (although she preferred to view it from a distance) and she enjoyed climbing up the crooked street. She couldn’t fathom how people got in and out of their driveways at such difficult angles. She loved watching the seals play at the Wharf and she certainly ate her fill of sourdough bread. None of those things, however, stuck with her. They were memories we collected during our girl’s weekend together, but they didn’t leave her with a sense of purpose. Read More →
Guest Post from Feeding Specialist, Melanie Potuck
What’s parenting got to do with raising a healthy eater? Everything.
Now, that’s not to say that kids become picky eaters because of “bad” parenting. When I teach classes around the United States, the audience learns that kids with serious feeding challenges got there because something went awry with their physiology, sensory or motor development, and consequently, children quickly learn to limit what they’ll eat.
For example, an infant with severe gastroesophageal reflux (chronic heartburn is one symptom) learns to avoid breast or bottle-feeding until their hunger pangs override the heartburn. They’ll typically only consume about two ounces and will often stop abruptly once the pain of eating is greater than the hunger. Treating the discomfort with medication doesn’t always resolve the feeding challenges, however, because the child needs to “unlearn” the lesson that eating hurts. Read More →
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A few years ago my dad apologized for being distracted throughout my childhood. “I’m deeply sorry for that,” he wrote. “I hope you always knew how much I loved you.”
My dad didn’t go into detail about what he was sorry for … he didn’t need to. I knew. I remember.
But I remember something more.
I remember walking across campus to my dad’s office everyday afterschool for over a decade. Upon my arrival, I would find my dad sitting at his desk surrounded by piles of papers and books. Although the empty chair sitting beside him was probably for a colleague in need of curriculum guidance or a college student seeking scheduling assistance, I always believed that empty chair was for me.
Dad would look up from whatever he was doing and greet me with a smile. Then, as if on cue, he’d place the cap on the black felt-tip pen that he used to grade papers or draft notes. The pen cap gesture was my signal. It meant my dad wanted to hear about my day. Sometimes I told him a few things, other times I went on and on about something exciting or dramatic that happened at school. My dad would listen, nod, and sometimes add his two cents. Without fail, my dad would smile as if hearing about my day was the best part of his day. Read More →
y new book, The Me, Me, Me Epidemic
is officially in bookstores now and I am so grateful for the amazing tribe of Un-Entitling Ambassadors
— leading parenting experts and brilliant bloggers – who helped me share this book and the Un-Entitling Toolbox
with the world.
I encourage you to visit their sites and blogs and soak in all they have to offer. You’ll find them content-rich, right-on-point, some absolutely hysterical and others that seem like they are speaking directly to you. These leaders bring insights, solutions, humor, creativity and lots of love to our community of parents and caregivers. Check them out today! Thank you to this brilliant team of “Un-Entitling Ambassadors”! Read More →