How Protection From Failure Breeds Entitlement
Children–from toddler to teens–need to learn cause and effect. They need to fail sometimes – and learn the lessons that come from that. When we allow kids to experience failure, they learn resilience, internal motivation, humility, and the value of effort. Those life lessons will prepare them to have healthier relationships, succeed on their own accord, and lead more purposeful lives.
When kids don’t get to experience real-life failure? Well, there is tremendous evidence to support that they develop an attitude of entitlement.
They begin to expect a head’s start, a treat during every trip to the store, a better grade, a bigger and fancier birthday party, and yes–even enormous headway when it comes to their entry into adulthood. (Internships and first jobs, anyone??)
In turn, they learn to not try. To never rise to their potential. They learn they don’t have to work hard for what they want because someone else is pulling strings in the background.
That’s not what we want for our kids, right?
If you’re like most parents, you want to raise capable, grateful, and respectful children. But to do that, it means you must help your kids face failure when the time comes.
Failure is one of life’s greatest teachers. But, if we prevent our children from the temporary pain associated with it, we prevent them from learning the life-long lessons failure can teach.
Blurred parenting lines start in small, seemingly innocent ways. The great news is we have the power to raise un-entitled kids with tremendous potential and unwavering gratitude and grace. And the steps to help you do that are way simpler than you may think.
For years, parents have been lamenting the effects of entitlement on children–“Kids just don’t know how lucky they are these days” or “Everyone gets a trophy now” or “Kids have lost the value of hard work.”
I know how difficult it can be to raise grateful children in today’s world, but I want parents to know IT IS POSSIBLE. That’s just one reason why I wrote this little book, The Me, Me, Me Epidemic: A Step-by-Step Guide to Raising Capable, Grateful Kids in an Over-Entitled World. If you’re at a loss for how to teach kids personal responsibility, resilience, and gratitude in our over-indulgent culture, I’d love for you to get your hands on it.
Final Thoughts
One last thought…there are many stories in the news we don’t necessarily want to share with our kids. But as a parenting coach, I encourage you to use this story as an opportunity to prompt conversations about goals and hard work. About creating plans and seeing them through. And, about the gift of failure.
If our kids learn to view each setback as an opportunity to build resilience and to bounce back even stronger than before, we’ll raise a generation of un-entitled young people who will change the world.
Trust me, it’s not too late. If you feel a sense of entitlement brewing in your children, I’d love for you to JOIN ME FOR A FREE ONLINE CLASS.
I’ll teach you how to get your kids to listen–no nagging, yelling, or reminding required.
Here’s to the next generation!
