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How To Discipline Your Child


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We want our children to learn from their mistakes and not repeat them. So the natural thought is to send them to the “time out” corner or up to their room to “think about what they’ve done.” Except they don’t. And they’re likely to keep up the same behaviors despite the punishment. So, how do you know how to discipline your child?

Often, we equate the term “discipline” with punishment. But the word “discipline” comes from the Latin word “disciplina,” which means “teaching, learning.” That’s the key to correcting our kids’ behaviors – giving them the tools they need to learn a better behavior. When we discipline in a way meant only to punish and have the child “pay” for their mistake, it doesn’t help our child learn how to make the right choice next time. No one likes being ordered around – punishment can lead to power struggles, and because our kids know this poor behavior gets them attention, they’ll keep doing it.

When it comes to knowing how to discipline your child, we can focus on three key areas: giving them the positive attention they need and crave, taking time for training, and setting limits and sticking to them.
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Elf on the Shelf: Does it really improve kids’ behavior?

Encouraging good behavior after Elf on the Shelf heads back to the North Pole

He sits on the shelf, keeping a watchful eye over your house as Christmas approaches, reporting each day’s household behavior to Santa at night.

He’s the Elf on the Shelf, and he seems like a parent’s dream for encouraging good behavior in the chaos before the holidays. Knowing their poor choices will be reported to the big guy up north, your kids will probably step up while the elf is perched on the mantle. But – is that really the best way to get good behavior from your kids?

Don’t get me wrong – we’re not down on the Elf on the Shelf. After all, watching the elf’s antics and discovering where he ends up every morning is fun for the whole family. However, using the elf (or Santa) to manipulate kids’ behavior is unfortunately not a long-term solution for bringing out the best behavior in your kids.

Knowing that Santa or Elf is watching can create anxiety for kids – especially for those who struggle with impulse control or who have difficulty making good choices.  Knowing they are being “watched” and may end up on the “naughty list” can be very discouraging.

An while Elf on the Shelf may seem like a great help during the holiday season – kids are quick to revert to their old ways once the reward of presents is removed. And let’s be honest… would you really withhold that new scooter or train set on Christmas morning because the Elf spied your daughter sweeping cookie crumbs under the rug?

Fortunately, it is possible to enjoy Elf of the Shelf purely for fun AND help improve your kids’ behavior through the anticipation of Christmas and even beyond.

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7 Fun Ways to Get Exercise on Indoor Days

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With the weather turning and sniffles coming, there’s bound to be some indoor play in your future. But kids staying cooped up all day can create chaos of a different kind. We all know they need to exercise and release energy (preschoolers need 90-120 minutes a day), no matter what the elements are doing outside.

Here are some fun, creative ways to exert energy indoors. This will challenge their minds and bodies – and make them tired enough for bedtime.
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3 Unhelpful Things Well-Meaning Parents Say

Your child’s crumpled into a ball in the living room, sobbing over a newly broken toy. You jump into action to quell the crying and help him feel better – but will your words actually help?

As much as parents would like to consider ourselves fonts of unending wisdom, we can say some pretty unhelpful things at times. These aren’t necessarily things said in the midst of a late-afternoon tantrum or a middle-of-the-store meltdown, but things we say to comfort our kids with the best intentions of helping them.

So, the next time these words are on the tip of your tongue, take a second and look for a different way to approach the situation:
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The Weighty Conversation Every Family Should Be Having

Weight Stigma Awareness Week

“I never talked about weight in the household. We just started making changes in a way that didn’t….make them feel bad about themselves.”

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This was Michelle Obama on the media circuit in March discussing how she avoids the topic of weight with her daughters in favor of emphasizing healthy habits. While I agree wholeheartedly with the first lady’s approach, there is another part of the weight story that shouldn’t remain silent.

What better time than Weight Stigma Awareness Week (September 23-27) to spur a different, but much-needed conversation about weight and children.  Whether parents realize it or not, weight stigma is a huge problem in this country and it’s affecting the way children treat each other, how adults interact with children, and the future well being of children.
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Child Aggression

Fighting the Good Fight Against Child Aggression

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It’s the moment we all dread, played out in real life: our child whacks another—on purpose. Whether there are blood and bruises or only hurt feelings, we can’t believe our eyes. Not only is the episode an ugly reflection on our parenting, we think, but now we have to figure out a way to get our child to kick the habit.

It might seem impossible, but there are plenty of positive strategies for dealing with child aggression. Not only that – there’s good news: it’s entirely normal. From the toddler who bops her older sister in attempt to gain a sparkly fairy pony, to the 11-year-old who lashes out against his buddy who doesn’t want to play one-on-one basketball, virtually every youngster displays child aggression at various stages. Rest assured it’s not juvenile delinquency—but it is something you’ll need to address before it does become a bigger problem. Follow these guidelines:
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