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How To Discipline Your Child: Top 3 Positive Parenting Techniques

Girl Making Funny Face
Girl Making Funny Face

Girl Making Funny Face
It’s the age-old question, isn’t it? For generations, parents worldwide have debated the most effective parenting methods until
their kids had kids and those kids had kids.

What’s worse, the division lines are strong – parents on both sides of the camp dig in their heels insisting THEIR way is the most effective way to raise children. All the while, desperate parents are searching for genuinely helpful solutions that will finally bring peace into their homes.

Is spanking best?

Or time-out?

Is yelling harmful?

What about counting to 3?

Should I give my kids rewards?

Or only consequences?

What if my spouse and I discipline differently?

Should I pay my kids to do chores?

The list is endless, my friend. I know how endless it is because I once asked all of these questions and more after I reached my limit. Having gone to bed hoarse nearly every night from reminding, nagging and yes, yelling – while still seeing NO changes in my kids’ behavior – I knew there had to be a better way.

You can learn all about how I got to this place, but let me encourage you, all hope is not lost. I know because I’ve been there – deep in the trenches of parenting seeing no way out. I firmly believe that knowledge is power, and with the right tools, you can become the parent you’ve always dreamed of being. The disciplining wisdom I want to share with you literally changed the trajectory of my family and thousands of others.

The Positive Parenting methods I teach are built on two very firm foundations – Adlerian Psychology and Positive Discipline. Because these tools are rooted in sound science and heavily-researched practices, I can confidently say these tools work for children from toddlers to teens and are effective no matter what circumstances your family may find themselves in.

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5 Positive Parenting Techniques You Can Use in 2019

Mom Throwing Kid in Air
Mom Throwing Kid in Air
Mom Throwing Kid in Air


It’s the moment parents know all too well: the moment where the energy in your house totally shifts.

All was calm until you handed breakfast to your toddler on the ever-so-controversial blue plate. You know, the one he liked YESTERDAY. Somehow overnight, everything you thought you knew about your child was suddenly wrong –  “I want my sandwich in triangles not rectangles!” or “I want the green cup not the red one!” or “I hate those socks!!”

“What happened to my sweet child?” you wonder.

As the energy in the house escalates and it appears your child is willing to fall on his sword over every little request, you lose it. After all, his requests make no sense to an adult, and because they don’t make logical sense, your only response is rage – “STOP YELLING!” you scream.

“JUST EAT OFF THE BLUE PLATE!” you yell.

“IT DOESN’T MATTER WHAT SHAPE YOUR SANDWICH IS IN!” you exclaim.

And then in a moment of clarity, it hits you – you yelled at your child to stop yelling. The phrase “Do as I say, not as I do,”  has never held so much weight.

Oh, friend. I’ve been there and I know those feelings all too well.

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5 Ways to Show Respect for Your Child (And Gain Their Respect in Return)

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I see it all the time – parents lamenting the fact that their children are “disrespectful” or “don’t respect my rules” or “show no respect to their elders.”

I totally get how frustrating that is. All parents want their kids to be kind, polite and respectful to everyone they interact with. Obviously, it’s important children know how to act in a civilized society – but let’s be honest, we also feel incredibly guilty or embarrassed when OUR kids are disrespectful. We can just feel the judgment of other parents when our son or daughter snaps back at the cashier at Target.

So the big question remains, in a world where common courtesies come and go, how can we teach our kids to be respectful?!  Both respectful to us and to other kids and adults? The answer is that WE have to model the respect we hope to see from our kids.

The truth is, you may feel like you’re already doing that and the respect still isn’t reciprocated. If that’s the case for you, stay with me, my friend. As you’ll learn in this article, there are a few ways even well-intentioned parents accidentally undermine the development of this mutually respectful relationship without even knowing it.

The good news is we can make a few simple tweaks to the way we interact with our children that will ENCOURAGE a mutually respectful relationship. When we make an intentional effort to model a respectful attitude for our children, they are more likely to mimic it. The idea that children deserve to be treated with respect and dignity is the foundation of Positive Parenting.

What does it look like to show our kids respect?

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8 Strategies for Picky Eaters: End the Mealtime Battles for Good

Picky Eater
Has your dining room table turned into a battlefield?

Instead of reminiscing about the day, do you spend mealtime engaged in a hostage negotiation over vegetables?

To add insult to injury, is the culinary masterpiece you slaved over treated with disdain as your child flings it into the dog’s mouth or reminds you again how disgusting broccoli is?

Before you know it, you’ve thrown your hands up in surrender or dropped your head to the table in utter defeat, wondering how steamed carrots could cause such a guttural reaction.

I hear you. As a busy working mom with two sons who had “discriminating tastes” when they were younger, I know all about “picky” problems and mealtime meltdowns. By implementing a few strategies, I was able to squelch the mealtime battles once and for all. (And good news, my sons are now young adults and they actually eat vegetables – there is hope for you too!)

Here are 8 steps you can take to end the war with picky eaters in your house:

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3 Simple Words to End Child Nagging and Negotiating

Girl Pleading with Parents
Girl Pleading with Parents

Girl Pleading with Parents
Have you ever met a more persistent creature than a child trying to get what she wants? I don’t know about you, but I haven’t. There is no one with greater resolve or dedication than a kid on a mission to get their parent’s approval.

Unfortunately, this level of persistence isn’t always well-received by parents who are often forced into these hostage negotiations at inopportune times – in the candy aisle of the grocery store, in the toy aisle of Target, in the middle of trying to cook dinner, while trying to take a shower. It’s as if children can see we are vulnerable and try to pounce in our moments of weakness.

While it’s important to teach children gratitude to combat the pleading in the stores, it’s equally important to stop the negotiations before they get out of hand. From the famed “Are we there yet?” to this morning’s “Can I have ice cream for breakfast?” to this afternoon’s “Can I have ice cream for dinner?” kids are notorious for their one-track minds, and they will ask…and ask…and ask…just in case you’ve changed your mind in the last minute. Read More

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7 Ways to Parent Well When Winter Shuts You In

Little Girl in Winter Time
Has the winter weather got you down? For parents with little ones, winter days can feel like an eternity.

Cold temperatures, snow days, weather hazards, the dreaded cold and flu season, and the onset of cabin fever can lead to a frustrating loop of, “I’m bored” and “What are we going to do NOW?”

Before you curse the cold and throw your hands in the air in a helpless act of surrender, let me assure you there is hope! It IS possible to keep your kids healthy and happy this winter season without losing all your marbles.

Here are seven ways to keep winter blues at bay:

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