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7 Positive Parenting Resources You’ll Want to Check Out

Happy woman with child
Happy woman with child
Happy woman with child

People always say it takes a village to raise a kid, but I’m convinced it takes a village to raise parents, too.

Once those sweet cherubs arrive, it’s really the PARENTS who need the help—the encouragement, the guidance, and the wisdom to become the parents they’ve always wanted to be.

While I’ve dedicated my life to teaching Positive Parenting strategies to thousands of families, I’m also the first to seek out experts on topics outside my wheelhouse. I love sharing resources I know will bring measurable, easy-to-implement relief and long-term support to families in our Positive Parenting Solutions community.

Lucky for all of us, there are a plethora of people and companies who’ve dedicated their time to creating tools, programs, and resources that seamlessly support parents who are trying to implement Positive Parenting strategies in their home.

Here are a few of my favorite resources that complement our Positive Parenting Solutions course. I’ve divided the list into “Parent-Focused Resources” (you know the drill…put YOUR oxygen mask on first!) and “Kid-Focused Resources.”

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5 Steps To Put the Brakes on Backtalk

Boy arguing


“I don’t want to!”

“You can’t make me!”

“You’re the meanest mommy!”

“I’m not doing that!”

Sound familiar? You’re not alone. Backtalk is the number one parenting complaint I hear from the thousands of parents I’ve worked with. But does knowing how common backtalk is make it any less frustrating? Of course not!

Backtalk might be annoying and, at times, infuriating, but it’s a common side-effect of growing up and gaining independence.

At all ages, kids need a strong sense of personal power on an emotional level. When they can’t get it because we’re ordering them around or doing everything for them, they lash out with words.

It’s a typical “fight or flight” response—since they can’t exactly move into their own apartment (flight), they’ll fight back by testing limits and trying to get a reaction.

There are many reasons WHY kids talk back, so it’s important to get to the root of the issue to determine which strategy will work best.  

The best way to stop backtalk in its tracks is to give our kids the positive personal power they need. By fostering independence within our limits, we can help them grow up, as well as limit the backtalk, arguing, and whining that no one enjoys.

Here are 5 steps to put the brakes on backtalk:

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Hollywood College Admissions Scandal and the Rise of Entitlement

Students secretly passing a note to each other
Students secretly passing a note to each other

Students secretly passing a note to each other
This week’s shocking news of federal charges raining down on celebrity parents and others in a massive college admissions scandal left many people (and certainly parents) shocked and incredulous.

While there is a legitimate reason for shock and awe – this extreme “parenting” as some might call it, puts a spotlight on behavior that has its roots in small, blurred parenting lines.

As parents, we want the best for our kids. But when wanting what’s best for our kids pushes us to take drastic and unethical actions, it makes me wonder—are we REALLY doing what’s best for our kids?

Think about it. Little things like asking for special favors and consideration—from a teacher, coach, director, or anyone in authority when your child has clearly not put in the time, effort, or inclination—is a rung on that blurred parenting ladder.
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4 Positive Parenting Strategies That Work Better Than Yelling

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I get it. You don’t want to yell at your kids.
I’ve been a parenting educator for 15+ years and have never met a parent who felt like yelling was a good strategy. The only reason parents yell is because they are pushed to the brink and don’t have more effective tools to use.

We know from recent studies that yelling can have the same detrimental effects on a child as spanking—including increased anxiety, depression, stress, and other emotional disorders. And while yelling can be useful in some situations, if it is our default discipline strategy, we will fail to experience the long-term behavioral changes we hope to see in our children.

Why isn’t Yelling a Good Long-Term Strategy?

Parenting is a marathon—or more like 18 marathons strung together. When considering different discipline strategies, it’s vital we remember the end-game.

Sure, we’d like our son to walk through the candy aisle without throwing a tantrum. And we’d like our daughter to not wage war at the dinner table over the highly-controversial green vegetable.

The problem is, when we focus on those short-term issues, we have potential to create negative long-term effects. Read More

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When Sibling Fights Turn Physical: Ultimate Guide to Success

Two boys fighting
Two boys fighting

Two boys fighting

There are few power struggles that take an emotional toll on parents quite like sibling fighting. We’re not talking about a simple disagreement—“Mom, he took my stuff!” or “She won’t stop repeating me!” Those spats are a normal part of life and growing up.

We’re talking about finding your kids in the thick of a physical altercation—punching, biting, slapping, or even worse. That’s scary stuff for everyone involved—children and parents alike. But the truth is, this behavior is fairly common, especially in younger children who don’t have more appropriate conflict resolutions skills.

Before you throw in the towel (or set up a boxing ring in your living room), let’s talk strategy to create a peaceful home.
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Is Yelling at My Children Harmful? (Here’s What You Need to Know)

Man with megaphone yelling at boy
You’ve just finished packing lunches and are scrambling to get the kids out the door on time to catch the bus.

Your oldest can’t find her shoes.

Your middle needs a paper signed for a field trip and “TODAY IS THE LAST DAY!”

Your toddler just poured a giant box of Cheerios all over the kitchen floor and you haven’t even had a sip of coffee yet.

You tried to hold it together, but in a moment of exasperation, you break.

“I TOLD YOU TO LEAVE YOUR SHOES BY THE FRONT DOOR!”

“WHY DO YOU ALWAYS WAIT UNTIL THE LAST MINUTE?! WHEN ARE YOU GOING TO BE MORE RESPONSIBLE?”

“AHHHHH!!! CAN SOMEONE WATCH THE BABY WHILE I CLEAN UP THIS MESS?”

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