Comments on: Pull The Plug On Power Struggles

By: 3 Great Reasons to Play With Your Kids

3 Great Reasons to Play With Your Kids — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 14:41:26 +0000

[...] 1. Creating Emotional Connection: Much of the daily interaction between parents and children consists of “ordering, correcting and directing.” (“Don’t forget to drink your milk”, “it’s time to take a bath”, “stop hitting your sister”, etc.) When parents order, correct, and direct, they are in the “Parent Ego State” and this type of interaction often invites the “fight or flight” response in our kids, resulting in power struggles. [...]

By: Why are POWER STRUGGLES so hard to correct?

Why are POWER STRUGGLES so hard to correct? — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 13:51:33 +0000

[...] In fact, the opposite is true: most of the intuitive approaches that parents use to “correct” power struggles, actually make them [...]

By: Amy’s Worst Parenting Moments

Amy’s Worst Parenting Moments — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 13:48:41 +0000

[...] personal power. Before I knew how to channel that power in positive ways – I was in CONSTANT power struggles with him. One of my “least proud” memories was when we lived in Lancaster, [...]

By: Time Out - The

Time Out - The — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 13:12:18 +0000

[...] a child to sit in the Time Out Chair or in her room for Time Out only intensifies the existing power struggle. It also does nothing to train the child for the appropriate positive behavior for next [...]

By: Time Out: Is It A Good Discipline Technique?

Time Out: Is It A Good Discipline Technique? — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 12:54:40 +0000

[...] Parents are often quick to use “Time Out” as a discipline tool because it is a widely used practice. Physicians, teachers, and other parents frequently recommend “Time Out” as a way to correct common misbehaviors. The problem with this thinking is, “Time Out” most often increases the intensity of the power struggle. [...]

By: Shift the Power Struggle Paradigm

Shift the Power Struggle Paradigm — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 21:07:53 +0000

[...] We can’t make our spouse turn off lights, wipe out the sink or want to have more sex. These things are in his or her control, not ours. When we try to impose our will on another person – boom – we have a power struggle. [...]