Very calmly, you ask your child to do something but nothing happens. You repeat the request (giving him the benefit of the doubt) thinking maybe he didn’t hear you. Then, you repeat it again. Still no action.

The “repeat – remind – repeat – remind” cycle only leads to one thing…a blow-up by you.

Does this sound familiar? If it does, you’re not alone. In working with thousands of parents over the years, “not listening” is the #1 misbehavior I hear. Not listening is a power struggle and if left unaddressed, can escalate to back talk, tantrums and even defiance.

Why Don’t They Listen?

Why don’t kids listen the first time? Why do we have to repeat ourselves over and over again and eventually raise our voices?

Children of all ages have a need for power and not listening is one way in which they are trying to “tell” you they need more control and decision making ability in their lives.

Parents also “train” kids to not listen the first time. It begins when they’re toddlers and we use the Counting 1-2-3 method. Early on, we “train” them that they don’t really have to listen until we get to 2 ½ or 3. As they get older, they become “parent deaf.” They tune out our ongoing requests and reminders until we raise our voice. Once again, we train kids that they we aren’t “really serious” until we yell.

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• Why children need power and how to give it to them within your boundaries.
• Why parents are part of the problem. You’ll identify your personality style and how it may be contributing to your child not listening.
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• What to say to stop “not listening” in its tracks without ever raising your voice.

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You can learn more about not listening by reading this recent blog post on the popular Counting 1-2-3.